How to Deal With Fear, Pain, Anger, Etc.

Tuesday, October 11, 2011
I am one of the luckiest people alive today who knows about this tiny secret that changed my perception on handling negative feelings a bit. Well, I'd have to warn you somehow that this tip only depends on the depth of negative thing you are dealing with. So let us assume that what I am about to share with you will only be applicable to individuals who go through small average amount of fear, pain, or anger.

So how do I manage these negative emotions? Read the story below...

"When I was in residency, my first solo procedure was a spinal surgery on a 16-year-old kid. A girl. And at the end, after 13 hours, I was closing her up and I accidentally ripped her dural sac. It's at the base of the spine where all the nerves come together. Membrane as thin as tissue, and it ripped open. Nerves just spilled out of her like angel hair pasta, spinal fluid flowing out of her and the terror was just so crazy, so real and I knew I had to deal with it. So I just made a choice. I'd let the fear in, let it take over, let it do its thing. But only for five seconds, that's all I was gonna give it. So I started to count. One, two, three, four, five. And it was gone. I went back to work, sewed her up and she was fine."

Do these lines sound familiar to you? Well, it's Jack of LOST, sharing his terrifying story about fear to Kate while his wounds were being sewed by her (Season 1 - Pilot Episode).

Believe it or not, it actually works. I usually let the fear or pain or anger or any other negative feeling do its thing on me... swallow me, take over me... drown me... beat me... BUT for just like for 5 secs or more, 1 minute at most... After that, it's gone.

Don't be so frightened by fear because it is supposed to be just a reminder that you don't know clearly what's ahead of you.
Don't be so hurt by pain because it is supposed to be just an indication that there is a little change in the usual routine.
Don't be so swayed by your anger because it is supposed to be just a simple reaction to something you don't want to tolerate.
To sum it up, don't take negative emotions too long, perceive such things as more of like deceptive distractions or simply, as ghosts. They are there because you are imagining them. Appreciate them for a while or until your vibes get used to them that you eventually decide to shut them off. Now, everything is back to normal.

Have fun drinking your fear playing with your fear, pain, anger and other shortest-term negative feeling. Do it quickly baby! :]

Short Story Reference: http://lost.about.com/od/seasononerecaps/a/1x1.htm

2 comments:

  • chiropractor belmont back pain

    You need to face your fear and calm down when conducting an operation. This is especially true to surgeons and interns.

  • Raphnexx

    Nice post,Im imressed glay!Keep it up.:-)

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